THE 10 STEPS

Step 1—You Go Girl: Making It Happen

You Go Girl: Making It Happen explains how to let go of self-doubt and begin to trust in yourself and your decisions. Regardless of your choices, you’ll learn how to communicate what you want to a new man in your life without scaring him away and why a woman’s authenticity draws relationships where she is desired and valued. Step 1 additionally showcases how every generation of women from boomers on has influenced sexual attitudes and behaviors. You’ll discover why millennials in particular really can have it all.

Step 2—Attitude Twerking: Confidence, Optimism, Mindfulness, and Enthusiasm Are Sexy

Attitude Twerking: Confidence, Optimism, Mindfulness, and Enthusiasm Are Sexy shows how Confidence, Optimism, Mindfulness, and Enthusiasm (COME) attract romance and bring about successful outcomes—in any realm. These four attributes at the core of positive psychology work wonders in and outside the bedroom: they have the potential to boost both your overall personal happiness and professional pursuits, too. As for the opposite effect, or happiness hijackers, Step 2 additionally takes a look at social media, revealing its dark side, including the way it can chip away at self-esteem.

Step 3—Hard Truths: All About Men (and Which to Avoid)

Hard Truths: All About Men (and Which to Avoid) provides unique, spot-on insight into men based on their chronological age, including the real truth about that fortysomething guy’s midlife “crisis.” Can’t figure out dudes? Then refer to the chart of Men’s Emotional Maturation to find out exactly what makes them tick. Perhaps most important of all is the brutal exposé of seriously flawed men such as serial philanderers, narcissists, and emotional manipulators, to name just a few. (Beware of heartbreak ahead!) Step 3 also recounts alarming personal experiences of women who were involved with the most toxic of these guys.

Step 4—Finding Him: Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

Finding Him: Step Out of Your Comfort Zone indicates where to find single men and demonstrates the most effective ways to meet the ones you actually want to date. You’ll be inspired by very specific suggestions as well as encouraging stories of patients who came to me in a dating rut before meeting their current boyfriends. Crucially, Step 4 also describes the most common way couples meet (online ranks second most common) and explores how to apply that to your present life circumstances. The straight-up lowdown on pricey matchmaking services will also help you decide if that’s an option for you.

Step 5—Hooking Up: More Than Just Friends

Hooking Up: More Than Just Friends is invaluable if you wish you were more than just friends with him. This step reveals when and how a friendship can become a romance; furthermore, there is actually a scientific basis for why you and that guy friend may fall in love. At the opposite end of the romantic spectrum, Step 5 shows which sexual hookups and (bad) dates run rife with resentment for women; emotional blackmail at the core of coercive sex is finally called out. Plus, you’ll glean rare insight into what psychologically drives the “new” rape culture on college campuses.

Step 6—Do Online Smart: Myths and Musts

Do Online Smart: Myths and Musts unravels and clarifies vital data showing which profile features attract the best matches on Internet dating sites and how to increase your odds of meeting someone right for you. Not sure how much to reveal? Let me help you out! The pros and cons of five popular dating apps are also discussed, including which “type” of man uses each one. Step 6 additionally explains the psychologically seductive allure of online relationships and why women in particular are so easily drawn in.

Step 7—Light His Fire: Why He Can’t Stop Thinking About You

Light His Fire: Why He Can’t Stop Thinking About You breaks down exactly how a man becomes captivated by you, including the neuropsychology of sexual attraction and romantic love. Like casting a (real) love spell, Step 7 details surefire ways to get noticed – from subtle signals to killer eye contact. The Step additionally explains how you and a potential partner truly become close and what makes that closeness so incredibly thrilling. Unless, of course, he’s married, which Step 7 covers as well. The difference between flirting and harassment is also clearly spelled out (hint: pleasing or please don’t)—and there’s nothing “gray” about this one at all.

Step 8—Letting Go: When and How to Move On—or Move In

Letting Go: When and How to Move On—or Move In offers advice for when to contact a guy after an early date, and also illuminates the ten most common reasons why he doesn’t call. Can’t resist texting him just once more? Then follow Step 8’s texting sample dos and don’ts. You’ll also learn to read the sometimes subtle signs of a long-term boyfriend who is not necessarily leading you on – so much as leading you nowhere. What’s more, Step 8 scientifically shows why rejection hurts so much and how to handle the pain, and most importantly, move on. As for happier times, Step 8 helps you decide whether you should move in with him or not.

Step 9—The New Choice: Don’t Sleep With Him Yet

The New Choice: Don’t Sleep with Him Yet presents groundbreaking research that reveals why sex is actually more gratifying for both men and women after a waiting period with a new partner. Step 9 also reports what men say about today’s fast-paced sexual marketplace, including why it is often crazy- making for them as well. Consider Step 9 as a very, very loud wake-up call. This Step will show you how to tell when the time is right (if ever) to sleep with a guy regardless of what you want out of the relationship. In a related vein, you’ll learn how to handle pressure to have sex before you’re ready with someone you like and wish to keep dating.

Step 10—Bring It: Best. Sex. Ever. (Your Choice)

Bring It: Best. Sex. Ever. (Your Choice) introduces a bold, sensual new way to enjoy sex that focuses on your own pleasure as well as on his; things finally heat up for both of you. This is especially important considering the evidence that women aren’t actually enjoying sex much these days. The seriously seductive, sensually focused material—including a one-page erotic exercise you can use with your partner—will turn you on just reading it. What’s more, you’ll learn clinically proven ways to keep your sex life fresh and exciting with a longstanding partner.